I never thought I’d be here—writing this…
Putting myself out there. But here we go.
I’m Firat, 30 years old, working as a male nurse for around a decade now. I built a skillset no PDF guide or YouTube video could ever teach me. From long shifts during day and night, I learned in the REAL WORLD, directly at the source of the problem. Seeing firsthand how tough and complicated, but on the other hand, how rewarding this work truly feels, made me think differently about life. It taught me resilience and the meaning of “being strong for the weaker ones.” And over time, I realized: helping people during my shift wasn’t enough.
I wanted to leave the world with more impact, growth, and freedom. I knew the impact I want to create couldn’t stop at just the patients assigned to me. That’s why I’m reaching out to you.
My “Click Moments” & What Changed for Me – How They May Help You
I had a few “Click Moments”—those tiny transformations, pivotal realizations, those perspective shifts, looking back on my journey. I want to share that with you. The bigger goal here: as you read about the problems I solved for myself, you’ll also get a glimpse into my thought process. Sometimes, hearing someone else’s perspective on the same challenges you face is enough to help you shift your own mindset. By reflecting on their journey, your brain naturally starts to see solutions aligned with your goals.
The Moment You Realized You Don’t Need Permission to Start
During my 10 years of recklessly following my goals and grinding, living the “toxic, self-destructive, sigma lifestyle”—let me translate that to you: living in isolation, cutting off contacts that didn’t align with my goals, unproductive learning, and being stuck in dopamine-heavy consumption cycles, keeping my mind stuck and insecure. My mind trapped in doubt and fear. I forged an unrealistic picture over time about getting rich easily and fast.
Everything sounded so amazing. The more content I watched, the more “capable” I felt. All the amazing, gold-advice I had in my head. My biggest asset? My intelligence and mindset. I felt unbeatable after watching all these professionals. Firat man, you are in that circle now! Congrats, bud.
… But, as you can imagine, reality didn’t share the same enthusiasm. It gave me a perfect uppercut, threw me around, and choked me out a few times.
What I wanted deep down in my heart—without realizing it—was to be recognized for the hard work I was putting in, the silence and the loneliness. I looked for feedback in the wrong places and for validation from the wrong people.
Yes, I know. It’s me. Thanks ChatGPT, Chris Williamson, Gary Vee, Thomas Frank, Ali Abdaal…
It finally clicked when I heard the same advice from all the people and sources I admired: start imperfect > not started. That was my turning point. I had been holding myself back all along. From there, my journey took a new direction. I started valuing ACTION over PLANNING/THINKING. DOCUMENTING YOUR OWN JOURNEY instead of IMPOSTER-SYNDROME/ACTING LIKE A GURU.
Own it. You are going into the unknown anyway—why not do it confidently?
From Consumer to Creator
Watching video after video, listening to endless podcasts, reading long articles—I consumed tons of content because I knew I could “achieve what I want.” I thought about content, planned it, even created it—half-assed. What wasn’t deleted by my insecure past self still sits scattered across my note-taking apps.
For what?
So I could look at it daily, just to beat myself down.
“What I wrote sucks. I can’t achieve anything anyway.”
“I sound like I’m pretending to be an expert. Delete.”
“I’ll always be stuck in my job. No one wants to read this anyway.”
The list was endless—excuses, self-doubt, reasons why I wouldn’t execute.
Then it clicked.
I wasn’t learning by consuming. Watching felt amazing, but I retained nothing. Real learning happens when you put things into the world and get feedback.
The content I created—deleted or buried in my files—has taken a thousand forms. YouTube scripts, blog posts, tweets, filmed videos. Almost living the “YOUTUBER LIFESTYLE FINALLY.” But instead of overcomplicating everything, I did one simple, structured, life-changing thing:
I took small steps.
Instead of trying to build the biggest self-improvement library in the world (because hey, I’ve been an expert for 10 years, right?), I just started writing.
Here on my blog. On X.
Simple. Small. No headache.
Now, I engage with my topics actively. I break them down. I explain them. And I actually retain what I learn instead of just consuming it passively. Working WITH and ON it, CREATING.
It changed me.
I never thought I could focus like this. But now? Firat is finally publishing consistently. He doesn’t beat himself up if he misses an upload or doesn’t like his writing.
HE. POSTS. ANYWAY.
AND YOU SHOULD TOO.
The Moment You Saw Structure as Freedom, Not Restriction
10+ years of professional overthinking left me frozen.
Before creating content, I’d “plan the outline” (EHEM—procrastinate). Two weeks later, I’d finally look at it…
…and go back to overthinking.
Listing reasons why this structure killed my authenticity, why it didn’t make sense, why I could write something more powerful, more real without it.
I wanted to give you value. So, in my head, it had to be long and detailed. That’s how I was trained. In my profession, I analyze, compare, outline, planning th—
… Stop.
Don’t be past Firat. Be present and future Firat.
Do this instead, past Firat:
Instead of long, over-detailed, “TONS of value”—
Try this:
A simple framework that actually makes you more free. A punchy little structure that keeps your writing sharp and effortless.
Past Firat trained with something like this:
Hook → Story → Aha Moment → Action → Close/CTA
That’s it.
Clear formats > Overcomplicated structures
With this, you don’t need to beat yourself down. You don’t need to plan for two weeks, feel overwhelmed, and quit.
For this structure, you only need your voice.
Yes, maybe that’s not how you “sound normally.” Maybe you want to be “the real me” when you write.
But what if…
Your “real you” doesn’t get attention? What if your “real you” sucks at persuasion and keeping people engaged?
From “What Should I Say?” to “What Do I Naturally Talk About?”
Yeah… EHEM—I mean, I struggled a lot with this. The confidence and the professionalism of all those YouTubers I saw was always fascinating to me. They always knew what to say, especially HOW TO SAY it. They hook you so much, talk like they know you, and even solve your problems on the go effortlessly. Guiding you to your next possible problems you could encounter, beautifully sitting in a big library for you to view. Sounds amazing.
But how in the world can I create a library of things when I…
don’t like to talk? I’m quiet, introspective, and definitely not that confident! People will laugh at me. I have zero followers, and I don’t even know what or how to talk about something I love, if I even know what that could be. Because, hey, that in itself is a hell of a project to begin with.
But it’s worth it.
Uncovering what your needs are can help you set your focus. I want freedom. That’s why I started posting my “words into the world” for now, not waiting for money to come first.
I’m here to create my own “needs-database”. It will make me money, yes. But more importantly, it will be a place of connection, judgement-free growth, and spiritual wealth.
Everybody on Earth has the same amount of time and free will. This is a space where people dedicate their time and free will to themselves, to ultimately serve others who face similar challenges.
The journey is what matters. Keep documenting with me, and start your journey, too. Someone out there needs your voice.
What’s Next?
In my next post, I’ll dive deeper into the power of consistency over perfection, and why embracing your imperfections will actually move you forward faster than aiming for flawless content. We’ll explore how real progress comes not from creating the “perfect” thing, but from getting something out there and letting the process shape you.
Stay tuned. Your journey is about to get a little easier.
Firat Akbas 
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