Firat Akbas

Tag: selfawereness

  • Overthinking Isn’t the Problem.

    It’s Avoiding What You Already Know.

    Let’s be real.

    You’re not “just thinking a lot.”
    You’re stuck. Looping.
    Scrolling, spiraling, second-guessing yourself over and over.

    And then the guilt kicks in.
    “Why can’t I just do the thing already?”

    I’ve been there too. And still am sometimes.
    I could reduce that to a minimum and still end up scrolling. It’s how it works if you don’t have “better things to do”.

    Eventually, I realized something hard but freeing:
    Overthinking isn’t the issue.
    It’s knowing what to do — and avoiding it anyway.

    What Actually Helped Me?

    I stopped fighting my thoughts and started removing the noise.

    I deleted Instagram.
    Then TikTok.
    Then Snapchat.
    All of it — gone.

    Not because I’m super disciplined.
    But because I realized something dangerous was happening:

    Social media wasn’t helping.

    It was hijacking my attention.

    When you take a step back, it’s insane.
    You’re sitting there on the couch like a shrimp, hunched over…
    …staring into a glowing alien rectangle that feeds your brain nonstop garbage:

    • “Give us your money”
    • “This sexy AI woman wants your attention”
    • “You NEED these protein pancakes”
    • “Here’s a game you didn’t ask for (with 97% ads)”
    • “Buy our course about socks”

    Most of the things you want in life, right?
    Quick, easy and rewarding.

    All of this while your real life sits in the background, ignored.

    Meanwhile, your brain can’t focus.
    You can’t hear yourself.
    You keep spiraling because you’ve got no clarity — only stimulation.

    Overthinking Thrives in Chaos

    If you’re the deep-feeling type, an introvert, someone who grew up being hyper-aware…
    then overstimulation turns your mind into a prison.

    Ask me, I feel hurt when someone ignored my “Hey, how you doin?”
    We are not different in this.

    And social media is a never-ending stream of dopamine and confusion.

    You already feel too much.
    You already think too far.
    Now you’re being fed more things to feel and think about nonstop.

    At some point, it’s not about laziness — it’s about your nervous system being fried.

    You’re Not Broken.

    You Might Just Be Wired Differently.

    Maybe you’re the analytical one.
    Maybe you’ve got neurodivergent traits.
    Maybe you’re the “deep-feeler” or “slow starter” type.

    Or maybe you learned “helplessness” early in life.
    And now, when faced with action, you freeze.

    Whatever it is — you’re not wrong for being how you are.
    But you do need a new strategy to get out of the overthinking cycle.

    Here’s What Actually Works

    These are the only things that have helped me stop the spiral,
    no course, no coaching — easy things you have control over:

    1. Kill the noise.

    Delete the apps.
    Put the phone out of reach.
    Block the toxic stuff.
    Reclaim your mind from the algorithm.

    2. Act on what you already know.

    That girl you’re texting who keeps it surface-level?
    Your girl is your peace — not your never-ending, unsolvable puzzle that eats your brain and chips away at your confidence.
    You know the answer.

    That dream you’ve been postponing?

    • Writer — writes
    • Dancer — dances
    • Cook — cooks
      …

    You know what step one is.

    That anxiety you feel?
    It’s probably because you’re ignoring your gut — not because you need more answers.
    Because watching others do the thing you want to do feels like accomplishment to your brain.
    But it’s not. You only scrolled.

    Start small.
    Do the boring thing.
    But do it now, not “when you feel ready.”

    3. Accept your wiring.

    You’re not a robot.
    You’re not lazy.
    You’re not broken.

    You’re thoughtful. Careful. Deep.
    That’s a strength — but only if you give it structure.

    Discipline.
    Boundaries.
    Purpose.

    Trust your gut.
    If you think your writing is shitty, you don’t care — you improve.
    Use tools, get help, post anyway.
    And way, way less noise.

    If You’re Stuck in Your Head — I Get It.

    You’re not failing.
    You’re not weak.
    You’re just overloaded.

    The world tells you to “man up” and “do more.”
    But sometimes, real courage is shutting everything down and doing less — so you can hear yourself again.

    You don’t need another quote, hack, or strategy.
    You just need to act on what you already know deep down.

    So today:

    Turn down the volume.
    Take the first step.
    And remember — you’re not alone in this.

    • Someone needs your voice out of your struggles and how you crawled out of this abyss.
    • Someone needs to taste your cooking.
    • Someone needs to see your dance moves.

    Let’s Move Forward.

    I love you. You are doing great.
    — Firat